Dating Advice: The 411 on Positive Self-Affirmations & Dating Success
How to Use Positive Affirmations for Dating Success
In my new PBS Special, Finding Your Own True Love I focus on the importance of loving self affirmations for dating success. Research has repeatedly shown the power of positive self-talk, which is what most of us call affirmations. Positive affirmations have been used to: change behavior in under-achieving students; increase nurses’ and doctors’ well-being and lower their stress levels; reduce breast cancer patients’ cortisol levels; and heighten athletic performance. People cope more easily when going into new social situations and are less likely to make downward social comparisons when they practice self-affirmations. Participants in one study that said self-affirmations before a new social encounter reduced their thoughts about being rejected compared with another group that focused on the party and who would be there.
So how do you affirm yourself? You deliberately make positive statements about yourself in your mind and aloud that are inspiring and nourishing. Some examples are: I am lovable; I am a good person; I am a child of God; I am intelligent; I am attractive; I am a great person. Get the engine going until you feel freer and freer to write down whatever comes to mind. If a statement feels scary, that is good-you are pushing the edges of your growth. If it feels great to think an affirmation, then it is right on target. Choosing a thought to put your attention on is generative. I believe that attention is one of the most powerful creative forces at your disposal. When you make self affirmations, you build on positive experiences from the past and more importantly are programming for new fulfillment in the future. Continue lendo “Dating Advice: The 411 on Positive Self-Affirmations & Dating Success”